35 - Symptoms of Codependency
Episode Highlights:
The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd
A story/workbook for helping codependents find freedom from codependency.
You are gifted, and there is a world in need of your gifts.
Loneliness is the biggest pain that people are facing now. What people need is to be known from the inside-out, rather than distracting ourselves from our loneliness (need for genuine relationship) through social media.
Diagnosing and Treating Co-Dependence by Timmen Cermak
5 Things God designed us to find fulfillment in:
1. We are created to use the development of our inborn self-awareness through feelings, needs, desire, longings, and hope to find and live in authentic relationship.
2. With that in-born self-awareness, we are able to be “response-able” to our inner make-up. (We’re created to develop the ability to respond to our outside life by using our inborn makeup: feelings, needs, desire, longings, and our hope. We need our “makeup” affirmed and confirmed so we can keep being able to use it, so we can grow “response-ably” which ultimately becomes responsibility.)
3. We are created to find genuine relational connection through being “response-able” and through using our inner self-awareness.
4. We are created to initiate our lives from our hearts, with others who have the same capacity. (We are looking to connect with others who are also living a life of relational fulfillment. They are aware that we are all 99.9% the same.) "It's a Small World"
5. We are created to be in relationship with others, God, God’s creation, and the others in it.
When we live our lives fully out of the 5 fulfilments, we are able to be healthy grownups who do what Jesus said in Matthew 7:7.
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
Matthew 7:7 is for grownups; grownups are just children who have gotten older and who have remained fully present in their lives. Grownups are able to live out of their fully present lives.
Jesus encourages grownups to:
Ask so they can receive.
Seek so they can find.
Knock so the door will be opened to them.